We’ve spent the past couple of weeks putting in new windows, painting, and various other projects to get the apartment ready for the baby.
Thing is, I’m not the guy that did ANY of that. Although I did spend today putting up blinds and acted as apprentice to my father-in-law when he painted the bedroom.
Does that make me a bad father to be?
Not a chance.
I can’t express how excited I am to be a dad. However, as Tony Robbins preaches, you have to stick to your strengths. This isn’t a post about evangelizing Tony Robbins, it’s a post about recognizing a new dad’s strengths and weaknesses.
It’s not that I am not capable of painting or doing everyday home improvement projects. I’m just not interested in doing them and I’m lucky enough to have people around me that do. My father-in-law is a painting expert. Why deprive someone of what they are great at doing for the love of his daughter and granddaughter to be?
That sounds like a very unselfish and selfish act, right? But look at it this way. If you are NOT good at something and the person that can is rewarded on levels I won’t understand until my daughter is born, then that’s a win/win, right?
My feeling is that a person should stick to what they are good at (and enjoy). Sometimes people have to put aside their ego and go with the flow.
I know my wife sometimes gets frustrated by this, but I see the look on her face when her daddy helps her. That’s priceless. And our daughter will appreciate when I call her grandfather to help her with these types of projects!
What do you think?